on reading: quality over quantity

It’s that time again: a look back at my top reads of the year. In 2024, I focused more on the quality of my reading versus sheer quantity (reading 100 books in 2023 was a fun challenge but for now that can stay in the rear view mirror). I found that I retained more and enjoyed more — imagine that!

2024 was for bringing in the element of community and a lot of that was through book clubs. I was in three to four different book clubs over the course of 2024 and I even started my own!

My cardinal rule of reading: if you don’t love it within the first couple chapters, move on guilt free — slap a DNF on there and pick up something else. More tips on getting back into reading here.

I managed to narrow down a list of my top twelve reads, one for each month, in no particular order (links to local booksellers included!):

  1. The Once and Future Witches. This was reccomened to me by a friend who is an excellent writer so I knew I could trust her taste, and I was not disappointed. Beautifully written, this is not a light, cozy, witchy read but a deep exploration of themes such as feminism, queer culture, and sisterhood. I love Alix E. Harrow, Starling House was one of my top reads of ‘23.

  2. The Night Guest. I read this in a haunted hotel around Samhain (AKA Halloween) and finished it by flashlight with my mouth agape. Eerie and page turn-y. Set in Reykjavík and translated form Icelandic which adds to the dark flavour. A quick novella. The ending had me clawing my eyes out and needing to discuss, and for that it makes the list. The cheery pink cover is a trap.

  3. The Heiress. I guess I had a thing for dark glamour this year. This book was chilling and delicious. I can’t and won’t say more, take yourself on a trip with this one.

  4. 28 Summers by the Queen of Nantucket, Elin Hilderbrand, wins the award of The Most Unexpected because I signed up for a beach read and it ended up pulling at every heartstring and made me cry. While I have natal placements in Cancer, that doesn’t happen often with books. That’s what I love about Hilderbrand’s work: beachy is not necessarily synonyms with light. I read it while on Nantucket, but even if you can’t go there, you might as well have because this book is so transportive you can practically feel the sand between your toes. The Perfect Couple, Swan Song, and other Hilderbrand books kept me company this summer but nothing quite broke me like this one. It sounds like the Queen of Nantucket is hanging up her flip flops and switching to dark academia projects, so get in the beachy vibes while they’re hot.

  5. Mad Honey. Beautiful and surprising, this is probably my favourite Jody Picoult book. It also made me want to become a bee keeper. Or maybe a queen bee.

  6. Listen for the Lie. I read this with a friend and that made it all the more fun. All good text messages start with: “have you got to the part where…”. The podcast theme is becoming a bit popular but this was twisty and well executed.

  7. The Year of Magical Thinking is critically acclaimed and famous for a reason. Joan Didion really is that girl. I owe her a lot because this book was the inspiration to start my own book club (shout out to The Main Course!) which has kept me intellectually fed and has nourished some beautiful friendships this year. One of my girlfriends described it so honestly when she said that she wouldn’t have been able to finish it without the accountability of a book club, because it just explores grief so rawly and vulnerably that it would be easier to put it down than emotionally “go there”. But when you do, you are changed.

8. Is there an afterlife? Do we come and go as we please? Do we do a few (hundred? thousand?) laps around the sun in a human carnation? Michael Newton’s Journey of Souls changed my relationship with death, my perception of life (huge claim!), and was the book I talked about most to anyone who would listen this year (shout out to Anna, my nail girl, who literally held my hands while I externally processed this book). Without being hyperbolic, Journey of Souls made me feel better about the undeniable truth that awaits us all: death.

Have you ever met someone and felt like they’re just an old soul? They possess a type of wisdom, calm, overall aura of… this isn’t their first rodeo? We see this a lot with kids — they are ahead of the curve, pick things up easily, say things we couldn’t have possibly taught them, and in some extreme cases recall memories from other lifetimes. Journey of Souls is a collection of case studies from psychologist and master hypnotherapist Michael Newton, spanning his career. Essentially, he puts people under deep hypnosis and they are able to connect with exact details of not only their previous lives but also the space in between lives. What I found most fascinating was that all of his clients, over the course of decades, from all walks of life, were able to verbalize and describe the exact same place in their own words. Essentially a school in the sky where we have guides, teachers, and peers where we are sorted according to our “level” AKA how many incarnations, lessons learned, wisdom gained etc. Newton was able to extract information and compare data to find something amazing: uncanny similarities between everyones experiences across the board. I also loved the ranking of souls as different colours of light, the description of how we are greeted on this other plane when we leave earth, and the overall sentiment that we choose our lives. If you read one book from this list, let it be the Journey of Souls. I am literally begging you.

9. I recommend Anxious People by Fredrik Backman the most this year because of it’s sheer originality, dark quirky humour, and Backman’s unique writing style. This is a book better experienced than explained. Thanks to my bff Sammy for putting this one in my orbit. Fall in love with Backman below, in this hilarious speech. (PS: Hey Freddy, can I call you that? Maybe we can meet up when I go to Sweden this spring? Meatballs on you).

10. A must read for fans of Isabella Stewart Gardner, The Lioness of Boston was my Roman Empire this year. Beautifully transportive this made me fall even more in love with Isabella and the archetype of the before-her-time badass woman. I found myself retracing her steps, standing in front of the site of her house on Beacon Street just absolutely awestruck. The book describes her painstakingly designing the house brick by literal brick and by doing so, embarrassing her husband because how dare a woman speak to a contractor and better yet, how dare a woman have an opinion or god forbid an idea. Fun fact, in real life Isabella had the home torn down and the address changed permanently after her passing so that no one can ever have the same address as her again. Pretty epic. Bonus points if you read this and visit her museum here in Boston for a totally immersive experience of the eccentric force that was and is Isabella Stewart Gardner.

11. THIS. BOOK. Wow. The Only One Left tanked my sleep score. I clutched this book ‘til the wee hours of the morning just dying to know what happens next. I inhaled it. Twists, shocks, dark glamour — this book has it all. Fast paced, creepy, mysterious. DO. IT.

12. And finally, my top rated book of the year. The book that has my heart. I am a huge fan of Matt Haig’s work and this is no exception. The Life Impossible follows the story of a retired mathematics teacher who mysteriously inherits property in Ibiza and vividly describes her mystical journey as she wades through grief and dare I say, alien life. PICK THIS UP for a heartfelt and beautifully bizarre story.

Wishing you plenty of cozy reading time this year. Remember it is not about how many books you tear through, but the books that tear ya up.

In quality,

ty

on discipline: tools to support a regular meditation practice

Are you curious about cultivating a regular meditation practice? Sadhana, or daily spiritual practice, takes a little bit of discipline and commitment and there are some tools that can support you.

Make your space sacred

Carve out a space in your home where you can be distraction free. It doesn’t have to be a big space, even a tiny corner in your bedroom is fine. I like my meditation space to have natural light and to serve no other purpose than to sit and meditate. While meditation can be done anywhere, carving out a dedicated space will encourage you to practice regularly and teach the brain to associate the space with the benefits of meditation. You can add special elements like crystals or flowers creating an alter like experience.

Bring in scent

One of the most simple yet effective tools that enhanced my meditation practice when I began practicing daily, was incorporating scent. Scent is linked to memory. By having a certain scent reserved only for my meditation practice, I was able to correlate the smell of incense to my sadhana practice and allow myself to be anchored by the familiar scent. These smokeless incense from Bodha are great.

Get comfortable

One of the best things I ever did for my meditation practice was treat myself to a sacred seat. I found a local meditation cushion company and reserve the zafu and zabuton (zen buddhist for cushion and seat) for my seated practice and my seated practice only.

 

Habit stack

Try adding your designated meditation time to an activity or task you already do. Examples: brush teeth and prepare for bed + meditate before sleep or make coffee + sit down to meditate in the morning.

Track your progress — gently

Tracking my meditation “streaks” helped motivate me to practice daily. Although it is a delicate dance with the ego, you can still celebrate your wins without being too rigid or competitive with yourself. You can use your calendar or a meditation app to keep track but remember to practice non attachment with the outcome.

Most importantly, it isn’t about stuff

While these tools are helpful, know that it isn’t about stuff — it’s about a sacred ritual that is right for you, and oftentimes all that you really need is your breath.

Wishing you plenty of sitting time this new year,

ty