on lessons: 32 x 32
/I am a firm believer that aging is a privilege. I’ve always been acutely aware of my mortality. My grandma claims that on my fifth birthday I matter-of-factly said I didn't want to turn five because I didn't want to die. Woof.
I promise I was a happy child and have since expanded my view on aging, in fact, I grew up to be one of those people that really loves their birthday. I also love other people’s birthdays — everyone should have an entire day dedicated to them and the love in their life. I have birthday rituals (a strict no airplane rule, a fire ceremony, plenty of woo and card pulls) and like to turn a year older right on the ocean. I squeeze in as much indulgence and joy as I can: favourite people, cake, feathers, sequins, hot fucking pink etc.
So, cheers to 32 years and 32 lessons:
You are not your work. Your productivity does not determine your worth.
Most things in life can be distilled into one of two categories: love or fear.
Intent does not equal impact.
When people show you who they are, believe them.
Envy is often an indication of what you want more of in your life, use it as inspiration.
Read before bed.
Over communication is better than under communication.
The answer will often arise after time spent in stillness.
If you are having trouble deciding it is probably because there is no wrong choice.
Invest in those who invest in you.
Integrity is everything.
Big life events reveal true colours.
Order the dessert.
Life is actually long. Slow down, you have time.
There is no such thing as too much joy. Make room for more.
You’ll never regret being the bigger person.
Buy the thing. Money comes and goes.
Usually, the anticipation anxiety is worse than the actual dreaded task.
In the same sense, anticipating something joyful prolongs the joy. Always have something to look forward to.
Smile and wave at babies.
Don’t rely on inspiration alone, work to make it a habit.
Belonging and fitting in are not the same thing.
Your body is smarter than you. Listen to it.
If you don’t want to meditate for five minutes that means you need to meditate for ten minutes.
Your intuition will tell you if you’re in the wrong place. Have the courage to leave.
Know when to let go. If it is heavy, you will have to let go many times.
Under promise and over deliver.
Life happens in seasons.
The same lesson will keep repeating itself until you really learn it.
Practice being a neutral observer. Not everything needs to mean something.
You are not your thoughts. You are the one observing your thoughts.
Nothing is permanent. Ride it out or soak it up, depending.
A year older,
ty